You hate Asian men, they insist; you hate your own child. You hate yourself. I save these messages in a folder on my computer to document the abuse.
He hates it when I do this. So do I, really. We live in San Francisco, so this dip is as common as the hills.
It was somewhat of a non sequitur from the conversation. He proceeded to give me a knowing look before launching into a monologue about his ever-enlightening travel experiences and exes overseas. He grins at me.
Earlier this year, I went on a date with a man who told me he had a thing for Asian women. We were sitting across from each other at a table in a fancy restaurant and he stood up to do a head-to-toe scan of me. I am sick of being fetishised because of racist stereotypes about "small and compliant" Asian women. Credit: Stocksy.
A Korean pop culture wave has spread around the world, and now young Americans are swooning to the music. Evidence points to China forcing prisoners of conscience into organ donation, and some countries have banned medical tourism to China as a result. Will the United States do the same?
But it was also partially about me. During my teens and early 20s, I was vehemently against dating Asian guys. When friends tried to pair me up with the one Chinese guy in elementary school, as if we were meant to be because I was the only Chinese girl, I quickly became annoyed.
When I was in my second year of university, a stranger approached a friend and me on the streets of Melbourne, asking to photograph us for his website about interracial couples. A little taken aback, we told him we weren't together but had friends that might fit the bill. He went on to explain that many of his friends were Asian men who thought Anglo-Australian women just weren't interested in dating them.
Kat Chow. Elise Hu. A recent study on data from a dating app found all women except black women were most drawn to white men, and men of all races with one notable exception prefer Asian women.
My friend scrolls through the photos of a man on Facebook. But in many of his photos, he is accompanied by Asian women. No, not the potentially fatal viral hemorrhagic disease transmitted by infected mosquitoes, but rather a preference for Asian women.
Asian men in Canada often fret that the laws of supply and demand are working against them when it comes to hooking up with the right woman. Are men with Asian ethnic origins justified in feeling anxious these racial preferences are actually operating in North American dating? Ronald Leefounder of a relationship service for Asian men in Metro Vancouver, believes Chinese, Japanese, Korean and other men with East Asian roots who make these complaints are looking for excuses to avoid facing their social awkwardness. Ronald Lee believes many Asian men in Canada have trouble facing their social anxiety.